We are adopting!!!

And I can say that I finally FEEL good about it.

We put in our papers last year and we were approved in September.

We attended the required adoption classes and LOVED them!

Adoption is SO amazing. Truly.

But it scared me last year...

too many unknowns,

too many questions.

There are some things I realized over the last year.

I needed to KNOW that I had tried everything I needed to with our

infertility treatments.

I needed to see the PERFECT IUI

NOT work.

I needed to be ready to accept

God's will in my life.

I am now READY to

Adopt.

I am EXCITED!

ADOPTION

It is scary,

it is intrusive,

it takes you out of your comfort zone,

is NOT easy,

but it is amazing,

it is a miracle,

and it is a method that God created to

HELP both families involved.

BRING IT ON!!!

BTW- check out our adoption blog at www.kendallandkatyadopt.blogspot.com

Introducing....

my best friends/worst enemy....

metformin and his cohort femara.

They are going to get me pregnant.

That is why they are my best friends.

Unfortunately they come with nasty side effects.

That is why they are my worst enemy.

The funny part...

The Femara doesn't want you to "plan to become pregnant".

Patience

That is my new theme for this month. It seems to be what I need to learn from this whole experience. In the past when I ask my husband for a priesthood blessing I always receive the counsel to have patience and find the positive. I have heard this for 3 years now and I have decided that instead of being frustrated with those words,( like I have been in the past) I decided to try and learn more about patience.

The Lord must have known that I would decide to actual heed his counsel this time because I have had many moments where I have heard exactly what I needed. For example, a few Tuesdays ago for mutual ( I am the Beehive advisor) we had an EFY conference. The speaker was a young mother of 5 children, the youngest two being two year old twin boys. She has her hands full. A year ago she lost her husband to cancer. She talked about her struggles and how she found strength in the scriptures. She answered my prayers. First of all I found once again that my trials are not as great as others. I could look at the positive of my experience. I still had my best friend next to me living and breathing. What a HUGE blessing. I can do infertility if it means my husband is around.

She also mentioned a scripture that I LOVE!!!

Mosiah 24:14-16

And I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions.

And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord.

And it came to pass that so great was their faith and their patience that the Lord cam unto them again, saying: Be of good comfort, for on the morrow I will deliver you out of bondage.

I love that! I decided to look up patience in the index and I found more beautiful and hopeful scriptures.

I am learning more and growing closer to the Lord through this trial. I will have patience and courage. For on the morrow I will be delivered!

Next month we get to start IUI process, with femara, metformin, blood work and ultrasounds! He had me start the metfromin now, in the middle of this cycle. Hopefully no nasty side effects! I still have hope that maybe I will be pregnant this cycle and we won't have to do the IUI. It is all in the Lord's hands and I will have patience.

Nervous

                     

 I am nervous!!!   

I have finished the required 3 months of birth control and now it is time to start "trying" again.   I feel much better about my body and it being ready.  I feel like I have tried to be healthy and do the right things for my body during these last 3 months.  I feel like I have "done my part".   

Now comes the faith part as the Lord does his.  I am scared that it will be his plan for more waiting.   Can I handle that?

I really don't want to feel that never ending disappointment at the end of every month.  It is for that reason that I REALLY enjoyed the birth control, there was nothing to hope for therefore no disappointment.  That and it made my boobs bigger and periods lighter and cramp free!!  LOVED that!  

So here we go for a month that we hope and pray ends in a POSITIVE PREGNANCY TEST!!    

Truly Blessed

I am truly blessed.   As we celebrated Mother's Day on Sunday I realized how blessed I am to have a child.  I know Mother's day is very difficult for infertile women.  That is the day for lessons on what a blessing motherhood is, and how wonderful it is to bear and rear children.    As I listened I realized that our teacher was inspired to talk about how we can all be mothers, even if we can't or don't have children.   She was very aware that not everyone can be mothers and the lesson was carefully laid out.

  

I am so thankful this mother's day that I can be a mother.  If only to one child.  She is my life.  Infertility has made me appreciate the miracle that she is.     Without infertility I would have taken her for granted.  I wouldn't have realized what a miracle motherhood is. 

 I also wouldn't have realized the strength of women who deal with infertility.     Women who deal with infertility are amazing.  They are the ones that deal with the emotional heartbreak nearly every month, the ones who have to put their bodies through excruciating  procedures with no guarantee that it will work, who pump their bodies full of medicine that "could help" but have nasty side effects.  Women who put their families information out there to be inspected and approved by caseworkers and browsed through by birthmothers hoping to place their baby, they are the ones who go through failed pregnancies and failed adoptions.   They are the ones who give up almost all privacy in hopes of growing their families with a baby.    What amazing and strong women we are!   The Lord made us for this.  He knew we could handle this when even we ourselves aren't sure we can take much more.   He blesses us with wonderful husbands,  he sends the right information and people when we need them most.  He knows what He is doing and everything will be alright.  Because He KNOWS exactly what we need and when we need it.    

We will get our children the way the Lord has planned.  

Who better to have in control?

Loving the break

In my previous posts I mentioned how undecided I was about trying birth control for 3 months.   Well to all those who may be considering this option, my advice is to do it!   I am LOVING the break.    I am not obsessing over babies.  It is like I know there is no chance for 3 months and so my mind has taken a vacation.    I am also working hard at being healthy and getting my body ready to be a baby home.  I think the best thing is my brain is getting healthy again.  I hope that when it is time to "try" again my brain is still on vacation.      My prayers are with all of you infertile sisters out there, hoping you get what your heart desires!  

Blessing

Last Sunday I asked my dad to give me a blessing.  Lately all the blessings I have been given have said "have patience, Heavenly Father knows what you are going through and is proud of you."   I am not saying these are bad things to be blessed with but I have a hard time with the patience thing.  To me it says " you are in for the long haul and it will be YEARS before you will be blessed with another baby".   Needless to say it can be a little discouraging.   

The blessing I was given on Sunday was different.  I was told that there are more babies in heaven meant for our family.  My body will be blessed and we will have more children.  Maybe one or maybe more but I am encouraged again.   I was also told that I didn't need to be sad, that I could be happy.   I think that is what I am supposed to learn right now.  How to be happy no matter what we are going through.  

My hubby  called the other day and told me to listen to a BYU devotional by Carol Wilkinson titled " Becoming and Overcoming".   AWESOME talk.  Basically she said that everyone will have trials, some short and some long.  We need to learn to be happy in our trials and learn what the Lord is trying to teach us.   I recommend it to anyone.